Love And Relationships

I have always been a pretty intuitive person and since I have been co-hosting Tree's Spot this has really grown. That brings me to love and relationships. We do a show every Monday night at 9pm cst that is focused on the subject. How do you know you're in love and how do you know when to let go. We as human beings all crave the sense of love and to be loved. It is up to the individual to determine their own definition of what they think love is and what works best for them. Me personally, I am a bit spoiled so it takes a particular kind of man to deal with and put up with me. LOL! But hey that's my preference and it certainly has to be his also. I have learned a lot about myself after ending a very long term relationship and my journey of self improvement continues on. I encourage anyone that has ended a relationship to take time out to figure themselves out in hopes that they can learn to love and understand self so that they will not carry baggage into a new relationship, know exactly what they will and will not tolerate, as well as knowing undoubtedly what they want. Especially when there are children involved. There's no sense in a child being exposed to a bunch of different people because you don't know how to lay in your bed at night alone.
That brings me to the "Friends With Benefits" situation that many choose. How does that work for you? Usually one or both catch feelings which make this particular pairing a disaster in most cases and leaves one broken hearted while the other is confused and mad. How does he or she handle it? *Good Question* He will usually begin stalking the female while the female will go to drastic means of flatting tires or busting out car windows. In my opinion neither is an answer or a solution to the problem. Why not practice some self control and quit SEXercising everyone while searching for love. Validate yourself and stop looking for someone to do it for you.
I am a firm believer in friendships. Start a friendship with a potential mate so that you can take the appropriate amount of time to get to know the person in question. People don't change overnight. They just become more comfortable about letting their true self shine through in time. I really get confused when people act dumbfounded about their mate abruptly changing on them. Hell if you were more concerned about getting to know the real them instead of how their private parts make you squeal and scream you would've noticed how they really were in the beginning. This is just a little food for thought and my honest opinion. Take it as you may but it is the truth as I see it!