What Comes First???

   As usual we had an interesting show last night during our relationship segment. What stood out to me the most was the discussion about what comes first, a relationship or sex. Although some agreed sex comes first, I still seem to think that a relationship should take precedence in most situations whether it's as friends or lovers. I've never been one that was able to lay down with someone and willingly give my body to them without a connection or some kind of romantic feelings for that person. What happened to a woman saving her honey pot for a man that is deserving of such a treasure instead of looking for a quick nut? There are so many women running around complaining about there aren't any good men left yet they are quick to give their goodies away to the lowest bidder out of pure loneliness. That's one of the problems right there. There aren't enough women in the world giving men a challenge anymore. I guess since women out number men 5 to 1 then most are like "Fuck It" and they'll do any and everything, not to mention put up with all kinds of crap just to say that they have man. Most times the man doesn't even know that he's in relationship with her but she will claim the hell out of his ass anyway. *shrugs*
    Steve Harvey has fucked most women's head up with his book Think Like Man But Act Like A Lady. Women weren't made to think like men unless they are like Chaz Bono and we all know that she has transformed into a man with a doctor's help. GOD made women a certain way to maintain a balance during marriage. So you've read the book, you do everything it says and get your husband, how long will it be before you grow tired of being something that you're truly NOT? Is that not the same as building a relationship on lies? Women are running around with that book like it's a new age bible. I think it's bullshit! If someone cannot except you for YOU(flaws and all) then what's the purpose of being with them? There is not one person walking this earth that is perfect so if you can't take me as I am then I need you to move your ass around so that a more eligible suitor may have a chance at gaining my heart.
     The sooner that you begin to know your self worth and love yourself the sooner it will be for you to stop excepting bullshit in your life. If you cannot find a mate then try something new. Hell, work on self improvement in the meanwhile. Usually during those times is when a good man will notice you. Never let having a man define you as a woman. Learn how to be a good woman. Half the women that I know don't cook or clean let alone know how to be the submissive woman described in the bible. I know some of your mouths dropped with that! LOL! I don't mean submissive like the chick in the movie Coming To America but more so of knowing your roll and letting your man BE THE MAN in relationship. You say that your man is dumb and stupid yet you chose him to be yours so you have to live with every ignorant choice he makes for you and your household. That brings me back to what I said earlier about rushing and wanting to have a man so bad that you're willing to settle for anything. Basically what I'm saying is stop making decisions based on your emotions, use your mind and common sense because I'm tired of all of the complaining when you hold all the cards in your hands.