Insecure People

I'm so tired of hearing these stories about how my friends (male & female) mates are turning into FBI agents due to insecurities. *sigh* Nobody wants to be with someone that they cannot trust or that does not trust them. There is a such thing as privacy and just because you are boinking someone, that doesn't give you the right to disregard the other person's privacy! Why go looking through someone's phone? Are they not entitled to friends of the opposite sex? Why go looking throughout their facebook or twitter page? Better yet why ask for their passwords to everything that they have? At this point you should be asking yourself why you are even trying to be with them if you are going through these drastic measures! What is there to gain at this point? I'm not saying that you should sit back and be a fool for anybody but DAMN, is all that really necessary? Just because you dated an asshole in the past doesn't mean that the new person that you are dating is up to the same tricks. There are some genuinely great people out there that are just friendly and personable. That alone makes people like their company. I know because I'm one of them. I cannot help the fact that men like to be around me. Even though I have a great time with my male counterparts, I would never have an intimate relationship with any of them and I have few reasons why. One is because nine times out of ten, I'm too busy being a little sister or big sister to them and we mainly talk about their girl. I help them understand a woman's point of view. The second reason is because I have been friends with them long enough to know that they have friendly dick, so a ride or die homie relationship is all we will ever have. Hell let me throw in this, we were never attracted to each other but we always enjoy each others company. Platonic relationships can exist as long as both parties involved respect each other and the type of relationship that they share. So if you feel the need to follow your mate, hide in the bushes, call numbers back or send their friends messages through facebook or twitter I suggest that you reevaluate your position in the relationship. Especially when a simple text can be misconstrued into what ever you are suspicious of before you read it. I know that I wouldn't want to go through all that bullshit so I don't believe in doing it to the man that I claim to love. Old heads always used to say, "Don't go looking for things that you don't want the answers to."

NBA Playoffs

*sigh* I know that I'm about to piss a bunch of folks off with this blog but as normal, I don't have a fuck to give! *shrugs* As an avid football fan (Go Tennessee Titans!) I rarely watch any basketball but this year I have been very much into it. Mainly because I'm constantly rooting for Lebron and his awkwardly placed hair plugs to never get a ring. I can't stand his arrogant ass so I can't contain the boos that come from my inner being for the Miami Heat. On the other hand I'm ecstatic for the Oklahoma City Thunder and their players Westbrook, Durant, Hardin and Ibaka to have made it to the finals. Now that is indeed a dream team in my eyes. These young kats have worked very hard to make it to this point and have basically told everyone who didn't believe in them to kiss their ass by showing how hard that they work on the court. Durant or "Durantula as I like to call him is 6'9" with a 7'5" wingspan and is eating the heat up under that basket. Hardin who is 6'5" and recently got knocked the fuck out by Ron Artest after a dunk, has shown and proved that he is a force to reckoned with on the court. Him and his beard have my full support! Ibaka comes in at nice 6'10". Although he looks like he doesn't speak a lick of english and that he frequents WIC offices, his energy and endurance is outstanding when he's on the court doing his thing. I guess those long days in the Congo paid off for him! I saved the best for last. My nigga! *Denzel Washington in Training Day voice* Westbrook is my new favorite player in the NBA. Standing up at a tall 6'3" he is the epitome of what I think basketball is lacking. He seems like the kind of guy that you see shooting ball in the park with a pistol in his pocket and I love it! It seems like the crazier he is the better he plays so bring on the bath salts so he can get it crackin!!! I'm looking forward to seeing him demolish LeBum and the rest of what's left of his hair, D. Wade and his I need a tampon because I'm on my period bitching for a foul ass and Bosh's open toe wedge wearing ass. Sometimes I think Bosh only plays so that he can model his jersey up and down the court. I'm just saying that he is questionable looking and probably should move to Atlanta. *2 snaps in a "Z" formation* I can't wait for game 4 to come on tonight as the Heat leads OKC 2-1. Will you be watching tonight?

Flirting Vs Being Nice Vs Being Romantically Interested

    Here's another one for the books. There is a big difference between being nice, being romantically interested in someone and just innocently flirting. Just because someone tells you that you look nice does not mean that they want you or are flirting with you. Some people just have a pleasant demeanor and they like to spread their loving bubbly personality around like lollipops. There's nothing wrong with this either. You never know who's life you can impact by saying a few kind words. I love people like that! Moving right along....Calling someone sugar, boo, baby, babe, bae and all those other sugary filled words is somewhat a form of flirting. How do I know? I know because I'm a serial flirter. I do it so much that I don't even recognize that I'm doing it most times. The thing with the entire flirting situation is that sometimes calling someone a little cute name doesn't constitute flirting and is one's way of being nice. I'm sure that entire concept is confusing to some since a lot of people think that a person is romantically interested in them when this is done on too many times. Which brings me to discuss someone being romantically interested in you. If someone is romantically interested in you they will let it be known. At least a person like me will! They way that I treat my friends/homies is totally different that how would treat a romantic interest.

Irritated

There are a few things that I really can't stand and that's liars, cheaters, snobs, pity party playing the I am the victim all the time muthafuckas, deadbeat parents, fake ass friends, ungrateful muthafuckas, users and abusers, fake ass keyboard gangstas, bitches(men and women) who run their mouth too damn much, know it alls and last but not least I hate a muthafucka that lies and makes up shit just to act like or seem like they're doing something other than the regular basic shit that they are accustomed to. I always encourage folks to be themselves unless they are on some fuck shit because then I will encourage them to change. I really don't care if they change or not because if they do or don't my life won't be affected and if it's that detrimental then I can easily remove myself from associating with that person all together. We all have our own destiny and you can choose to live your life however you choose but some of yall muthafuckas need to stop, take a chill pill and begin to reevaluate yourselves. I can say that because I try to do something to better myself every damn day. And if I can do it, your ass can too! Some of yall muthafuckas make my ass itch with all of your fuckery and foolishness so if you think I'm talking to you, I probably am because only a hurt dog will holler.

Frustrated

   I have been telling this guy for 6 months or better that he is not one of my starters and security has placed his ass in the stands with the rest of my homies. Today he seemed to piss me off more than usual since I keep telling him to stop fading me with sexual comments being that I do not see him in that kind of way at all. I had became so frustrated that I told him that I don't even want a team anymore. To my surprise he got excited thinking that this somehow put him in a better position with me. *rolls eyes* I can't do ignorance so I guess he will be getting blocked today. *shrugs* When do men finally give the fuck up, accept a friendship only relationship and move the fuck around? This shit has me baffled! I am genuinely nice to everyone but there comes a time when being nice is out of the question. I am not like other women. I am my own person in every accord and my stature will not be downgraded, disrespected or downplayed in any form or fashion. Just because you're used to dealing with bottom feeding hoes, does not mean that I will lower myself to accept the bullshit that you do. Matter of fact, that is one of the reasons why I'm always getting rid of men. I refuse to deal with the dumb shit. Take ya ass to find someone more suitable for your particular taste. I'm sure BoomQueeshia is ecstatically waiting for your ass somewhere. 

I'm Not Better Than Anyone I'm Just Me

   I decided to write this so that my readers could get a glimpse into my own struggles. The things that I write are mostly from experience but some also come from the common sense that GOD gave me. I don't think I'm better than anyone and I surely would never judge anyone for their choices. I have an opinion but that doesn't make the way I think law. I have made mistakes just like any other woman. I am a single mother of two beautiful girls and their dad is a jackass so there's one. LOL! He ain't shit but I wouldn't have my babies without him so I'm thankful for that!
     Every day that we are blessed to wake up is a gift so we should never waste a second of it dwelling on idiocracies of the world. I try to stay very positive despite anything that may effect those around me or myself. Life is too short to dwell on anything other than the positive things in life. I don't care how bad your life is, you can find something within it to be grateful for. I choose to find the best in any bad situation and focus on that positive note instead of dwelling on the negative. Even after many trials and tribulations I can honestly say that I still feel blessed! I always think that there is someone out there that would kill to be in my spot so I thank GOD that He sees fit to have me here. As I continue throughout my life I'm sure that I will continue to grow since life is a never ending learning process and I plan on being the best student that I can be.
   As I continue to write these blogs I will try my best to give you'll a part of me. To know me is to love me and those closest to me know me as an open book. Although most people see me as cold hearted and mean, I'm far from that. I'm actually a very kind, loving and sharing person that has a great since of empathy, compassion and sympathy for everyone. I'm just really blunt and maybe a little crass with the things that I say. Honesty is a must and it goes a long way with me! :-)

Hoes Be Winning!!!

Allow me to introduce myself. I am that new twinkle in your man’s eye. The reason for the extra pep in his step. Doesn’t Daddy look extra handsome these days? It’s not only the designer suits that I buy for him, it’s also the confidence that is restored in him, because unlike you, I remind him on a regular basis that he is “the man.”  

I’ll give credit where it’s due. You weren’t always the selfish bitch you turned into. You really got him through some tough times. When he had no money, you supported him. (How could he forget, when you bring it up every chance you get?) Back in high school, when he wasn’t the cool guy on campus, you showed love. But much like your waistline from when he first met you…things have changed.  

Before you get your granny panties in a bunch, don’t fret. You have a good man. He did not set out to hurt or betray you, things just kind of happened. To my chagrin, he loves you very much, and has this displaced loyalty I only partly understand. But despite the love, here I am. Comfortably nestled in his daily thoughts. It’s normal to hate me and everything I stand for. But it is your inflexibility in just about everything in life which goes double in the bedroom, that pushed him to this point. Let’s be for real, do you really think it is okay for a man to never receive oral sex? Who do you think keeps him satisfied until the next birthday or holiday when you decide to make the journey down there?  

As long as there are women like you, women like me will always be in business. You make my job so easy. Why you may ask? For starters you have too much damn mouth. Why are there two kings in the castle? You may think you are winning the war with your constant nagging and complaining, but you are merely battling your way to a lonely bed at night. Your insecurity and incessant need for validation are the nails that are sealing your coffin.  

When Daddy is with me it’s refreshing. I know my role and I serve proudly. There is nothing to argue about. Only laughter and good times allowed in our private world.  

Of course I see your internet posts… “jump-off” this, and “side-piece” that. Forgive me for being “unphased.” Those names pale in comparison to some of the names that Daddy calls me when he is ravishing my body. We have fun experimenting with the things you are too uptight and/or controlling to allow.  

Sure his parents love you, and his colleagues look forward to seeing you at the holiday parties. That bothers me none. Because when he is staring off into space, he is recalling the sexy lap dance I gave him. So, I have to celebrate on December 26, and February 15, that is fine by me. All I need is him. While your selfish ass is forcing him to take you to an over-priced restaurant to celebrate Valentine’s Day…I am in the gym, keeping things tight for your man. You can keep the chocolates too, much too fattening for me.  

Be very afraid. I am not going anywhere. There are many others out here just like me waiting to step up when I do. You’ve been warned.  

Blissfully His,  

The Mistress