Insecure People

I'm so tired of hearing these stories about how my friends (male & female) mates are turning into FBI agents due to insecurities. *sigh* Nobody wants to be with someone that they cannot trust or that does not trust them. There is a such thing as privacy and just because you are boinking someone, that doesn't give you the right to disregard the other person's privacy! Why go looking through someone's phone? Are they not entitled to friends of the opposite sex? Why go looking throughout their facebook or twitter page? Better yet why ask for their passwords to everything that they have? At this point you should be asking yourself why you are even trying to be with them if you are going through these drastic measures! What is there to gain at this point? I'm not saying that you should sit back and be a fool for anybody but DAMN, is all that really necessary? Just because you dated an asshole in the past doesn't mean that the new person that you are dating is up to the same tricks. There are some genuinely great people out there that are just friendly and personable. That alone makes people like their company. I know because I'm one of them. I cannot help the fact that men like to be around me. Even though I have a great time with my male counterparts, I would never have an intimate relationship with any of them and I have few reasons why. One is because nine times out of ten, I'm too busy being a little sister or big sister to them and we mainly talk about their girl. I help them understand a woman's point of view. The second reason is because I have been friends with them long enough to know that they have friendly dick, so a ride or die homie relationship is all we will ever have. Hell let me throw in this, we were never attracted to each other but we always enjoy each others company. Platonic relationships can exist as long as both parties involved respect each other and the type of relationship that they share. So if you feel the need to follow your mate, hide in the bushes, call numbers back or send their friends messages through facebook or twitter I suggest that you reevaluate your position in the relationship. Especially when a simple text can be misconstrued into what ever you are suspicious of before you read it. I know that I wouldn't want to go through all that bullshit so I don't believe in doing it to the man that I claim to love. Old heads always used to say, "Don't go looking for things that you don't want the answers to."